tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4931794962969130059.post2860978432774662904..comments2023-05-29T11:14:32.088-04:00Comments on incredible juju: leave the men out of it.sparklehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11067949075567832794noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4931794962969130059.post-35174355666707010712008-09-14T18:07:00.000-04:002008-09-14T18:07:00.000-04:00@ the diva: BASICALLY. i mean, yes. exactly. p...@ the diva: BASICALLY. i mean, yes. exactly. popping stitches needs to be avoided, so whyyyyyyy are we figuratively doing so? you hit the nail on the head.<BR/><BR/>@ bliss: yupper. it's not a detriment, in my book . . .sparklehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11067949075567832794noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4931794962969130059.post-71649430702685836502008-09-14T17:20:00.000-04:002008-09-14T17:20:00.000-04:00i think part of the problem is that, as women, we'...i think part of the problem is that, as women, we've been conditioned to believe that as we heal ourselves, we have to heal the broken men in our lives as well, that they can't heal without us, that it's part of our womanly responsibilities to bolster them as necessary, sometimes to our own detriment. that we can't fully heal unless we're helping them heal, not realizing that we're giving ourselves the shaft when it comes to devoting the necessary time it takes to mend wounds.<BR/><BR/>loving a man (or anyone, for that matter) has to be secondary. you wouldn't help someone lift their groceries if you just got surgery and risked popping the stitches. so why do we prolong our own agony for the sake of lifting up someone who can't lift himself?<BR/><BR/>quandary of quandaries.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4931794962969130059.post-68317260335701797472008-09-14T11:39:00.000-04:002008-09-14T11:39:00.000-04:00yeah...i kinda took issue with that as well (i hav...yeah...i kinda took issue with that as well (i haven't fully read all of her posts), but since it's relatively new, i wanted to see where she was going to go with it all...<BR/><BR/>i think that part of it depends on where we are in our healing, too. e.g., right now, i can see myself saying "i love women and i want you to heal, too"--but how that plays out in my personal life is a different story; i won't be waiting around for any emotionally crippled negroes, even though i may fully understand their plight. lol. <BR/><BR/>i think the irony is that, when women fully devote themselves to their own healing, men can fall by the wayside automatically--particularly when those men are broken themselves and/or are used to broken women as a norm. <BR/><BR/>whether or not to count that fortunate is another blog altogether. *grin*omihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12999467500417449611noreply@blogger.com