something that amazes me about life:

people really think that you're spoiled if you ask for specifically what you want, & anticipate at least coming close to getting it. that worries me. why am i spoiled just because i'm trying to make some things happen for myself, things that i want/ need/ desire? that makes zero sense to me. i don't care if i want thigh-high socks from american apparel or a damn mosaic made from recycled glass . . . if i want it, & i can make it so, i'm going to make sure i have it. peace of mind, a happy family, new sneakers, a meal at brasserie perrier . . . whatever the fuck i want. i'm not saying that just because i want something it should be so. i'm saying that if i'm working toward something, or creating the conditions for something to happen/ come into my possession, why on earth shouldn't i expect it to be so?

i just don't get it. maybe gratification is something i'm only supposed to believe in if it's delayed (ie the idea of heaven being far away as presented by the big three). i don't feel that way. i think that's a dumb idea. there is pleasure here. there is bliss here. there are blessings here. there is satisfaction right here. of course, we suffer. but some of the pain we experience can be alleviated or removed altogether by the same hands we use to create it. the widespread misery of humankind, to me, cannot be defined simply as god's will. i mean, do human beings not have their own will? do people not possess the ability to recognize wrongdoing/ suffering & then do something about it? however small, you can make an effort.

maybe the easiest thing to do is to lie down & take it. that is, pray for whatever & fail to put forth any effort. but in that book some of y'all rely on exclusively, the bible? i'm pretty sure that somewhere in there it says that faith without works is dead. so . . . like i said to R the other night, being religious is easy. it's being a person of faith that's hard.

so, i said all that to say this: have what you want. be balanced enough to see what work you've got to do to achieve it. it's that much sweeter when you get your blessings here, now.


sweetness said...

and let the church say...

being in touch with your desires is how you get to where you want/need to be. period.

desire--in the sense that you're speaking of, not simply superficial or material--is also a very feminine kind of thing. and i think that's part of the reason it's been so maligned in a culture based on patriarchial thinking & value systems.

"spoiled" has to do with expecting the world to fall at your feet. and that ain't what you're talkin.

god helps those who help themselves...

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AJ said...

Life is much too short to spend it waiting for things. Waiting gets you nothing but left behind with regret. If people think going for what I want makes me spoiled, then oh well...they can sit on the sidelines and watch my dust settle.

oyadele said...

aj -- i definitely think that the folks who're your biggest detractors are the same folks who're sitting still, wondering when the miracle is gonna fall from the sky. sometimes, you know that you've done all you can. at that point, shit's completely out of your hands. but up until that point, it's up to you to put your bid in for your own bliss.